"You may love us, you may hate us, but blood's thicker than the water at the bottom of the crick. Girl, you're stuck with us." - Grandpa Pete Oberfoell
Can you show me a perfect family? Has there ever been a family that hasn't had arguements, different opinions, or exasperation? Really, I think that one would have to lie to answer, "Yes," to that question. It's impossible. And even if such a family existed, their lack of conflict would be a problem in itself. We learn how to problem solve primarily from our family. Without those skills, we wouldn't be able to survive in the world. Dysfunction can be functional.
However, dysfunction is hurtful as well. Families are torn apart by it. People can become broken shells of what they once were. They feel as if they can trust no one.
Whether dysfunction can be constructive is hidden in shades of gray. Every situation is different. Everyone is unique. However, we all have a need to love and to be loved. When a family is incapable of this, then it is truly dysfunctional.
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